Fear

Fear

Fear mode of communication is an unconscious way of communicating through actions or behaviors. Often this form of communication is witnessed with infants when they are getting themselves into dangerous situations. It is at this time a response is made on behalf of the child as there is a perceived sense of fear. It is not uncommon to use this mode throughout our lives as we communicate with others.

I was eight when my friends and I decided we were going to ‘have’ fun by skipping school and ‘sneaking in’ to a baseball game. We knew that Ebbets Field’s right field fence had a hole in it. We decided to go for it and climbed through the fence and took our seats in center field bleachers, for free. Unfortunately for us, my friend’s mother was watching the game at the same time we were scaling the fence. When she saw her son and me on television, she called my mother to tell her ‘guess who I saw on television today?’ When my father heard about the incident, he ‘sensed’ my fear of what I had done (which I knew I was not supposed to do). He certainly found the proper ‘mode’ of communicating how he felt about my behavior. I can remember to this day the pain I felt by his ‘communication’ method.

Throughout our lives, we communicate in this mode with others. Animals have a keen ability to sense fear. There are times when a person may seem fearful of a dog and in return the dog feels this emotion and are prompted to attack. Unfortunately, fear is an imperative mode of communication that is not always addressed in the parent/child relationship.